WHAT THE ****. should i even consider calling this guy again?! He sent me 4 messages when I got home since I wouldn’t pick up my phone:
1- It’s all of it, it’s all of you, it’s the way you make me feel. It’s the little things you do for me that let me know it’s real.. (which is a verse from a poem that I WROTE TO HIM!!!!!!!! which was touching, but he said he’s the hopeless romantic, and i have NEVER seen flowers, gifts, cards, poems, songs-even though he can sort of play the guitar. He started a song for me and i’m sure that went out the window. And ok. Once when I was working in the summer, he dropped me off at work but we didn’t leave early enough to get breakfast so when he left, he came back 5 mins later with mcdonalds and surprised me with that. Which was really sweet. and one time I told him I had a hopeless addiction to werthers originals and the next time he saw me he had a big bag of them).
2-I don’t know what i’m doing, but i do know that i don’t wanna b without u…and i WILL show u. I’d lose trust in myself if i didn’t/ I’ll show you what you mean to me.
3- I LOVE YOU (MY NAME). for amazing reasons.
4- I’ll prove i’m worthy. If you still let me.
I didn’t reply.
Next morning he called twice. I didn’t answer. He sent another msg
"Have a great day."
i sent : thanks. you too.
WHAT?! The HELL?! I think i should just call a break and focus on school.
We have plans of going to a city north of here to visit his parents for xmas, who are really nice people, and my last xmas was HORRIBLE due to my lame-*** boyfriend who i didn’t see AT all during the holidays. So I don’t really know if I should even go.
CONFUSED!!!
I’m going to study.
and tonight he text me:
I miss you. Have a good sleep. I’m gonna go to bed.
and III said: Night. Stayin at my aunts all week.
no reply. whatever.
well since my aunt is gone, i’m staying at her place for the week. maybe I’ll just wait until my exams are finished for this semester and then see how things go. If it’s not meant to be, it’s not meant to be.
I just wanted to add, that maybe I put too my effort in??? Or maybe I’m too available?? But shouldn’t serious relationships be open like that? for availability?
When we first met, I worked at a parts store selling auto parts (totally not my forte), and we also sell hand cleaners and all that jazz, and I picked him up some worx hand cleaner with a couple nail brushes and a few other things cuz he always gets so dirty doing irrigation. I wrote him a poem when he wanted to know how I felt about him, (as partially stated above), I bought him a few shirts because they were on sale and they were just the kind that he wears, and I’ve gotten him this all-natural soap bar that’s a natural substitute for shaving cream and it works great. I go places sometimes and when I look around, sometimes things stand out that I think he would like, so i get them for him. Of course they’re all little things, it’s not like i spoil him with expensive gifts ALL the time, they’re kind of just little add-ins in our relationship that i like doing because..well i just do, and it shows I’ve had him on my mind. Is this wrong??
part 1 is here:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AjI9YynLpX7Ul0VFLbp0PDvsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20091121212010AAaGwN8
part 2 is here:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20091121214133AAhflWf&r=w
PS – there are ONLY 3 parts to this thing. lol why can’t they just let me put the whole thing down?? some things need to be described in full..
ok his reasons seem sweet..i guess but first of all that #1 reason is basically your since you wrote that in a poem for him and he copy writing it,so that doesnt count..and the others are nice but it would be nice if he explained how he can prove his love to you, tell him to write down the reasons what makes you worthy,and maybe you’ll consider talking to him normally again..also ask him why he never got you a present i still cant get over why he made his present sound so amazing, and say it was a cammera and than not give it to you,but has money for 2′6ers?? wtf? and it seems like hes only happy when hes drinking,i say this because hes alywas wanting you to come over and drink at his place BORRRRRRINGGGGGGGG!!! your not too available ,you’re right you’re supposed to be aavailable in relationships, and its nice that you spoil him by buying him presents and everything but like he isnt buying you anything!!! besides that time in the summer about the werthers originals and mcdonalds,,he should be doing stuff like that regularly! plus other gifts and the MOTHERLOAD GIFT for your birthday….it seems you’ve wasted too much time on him and hes just starting to realize maybe that hes gonna lose you and might start doing differently..but the thing is what happens if he does act nicer and start actually going out and doing things with you,spending more time..and than after a while he goes back to his old ways.. you’ve been with him for a while and it sounds like he isnt starting to realize till now..you guys havent talked in the past about this im guessing? about your relationship and what not,how hes not treating you like the women that you are? maybe you should suggest counceling for you guys.. if he TRUELY loves you,even though he might think its a waste of time, he will do it to make YOU happy and to save your relationship! i think that you should give him a month,but after you finish your tests because you dont want any of this crap to get in the way of your bf. yea give him a month to start treating you well any everything and if you see him going back to his old ways..not wanting to spend alone time with you,than kick him to the curb.you can seriously get any man,from th sounds of things you sound like a very great girlfriend…hes seriously being a lil bitch too about that thing when you guys were in chapters and u showing him that book,,and he just walked away and the reason for that was because he didnt wana spend him at your aunts ?wtf thats sucha lil deal anyways..he needs to stop acting like a child and say things to you when hes not liking something or whatever,not to keep it inside and than go off on you on a terrible rant….i suggest ignoring him for a couple more days and than tell him whats up…hope everything works out
:)